213 The Problem with "Self Improvement" (and Why You Don’t Need Fixing)

If you’ve ever found yourself buried in self-help books, podcasts and courses looking for that one secret that will finally make everything click – you’re not alone.

Self improvement can be powerful and life-changing. But it also has a shadow side. When we get stuck in constantly chasing the next solution, constantly trying to fix ourselves, it can leave us feeling like we’re never enough, always behind, and never quite able to enjoy the progress we’re making.

In this episode, I share my own experience of falling into the self-improvement trap, what it taught me, and how I shifted to a more grounded approach. We’ll talk about the difference between genuine growth and the endless cycle of trying to fix yourself – and how you can start to trust yourself and integrate what you already know instead of always looking for the next answer outside of yourself.

Key Takeaways

• The hidden downside of self-improvement when it comes from a place of “I need fixing”
• How constant learning without integration keeps you stuck in procrastination
• Signs you may be outsourcing your self-trust to someone else’s system, book or method
• How to use self-development as a tool for growth rather than a crutch
• Why reconnecting to yourself (not just consuming more information) is the missing piece

Self improvement isn’t bad – but when it becomes a way of constantly proving yourself, it loses its power. This episode will help you step back, slow down, and approach growth from a place of self-trust, not self-criticism.